Tracked@sopuli.xyz to Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world · 22 hours agoTo the girls here: what action or social behaviour/etiquette you think you can get away doing/not doing that you couldn't if you were a man?message-squaremessage-square152fedilinkarrow-up1145arrow-down127
arrow-up1118arrow-down1message-squareTo the girls here: what action or social behaviour/etiquette you think you can get away doing/not doing that you couldn't if you were a man?Tracked@sopuli.xyz to Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world · 22 hours agomessage-square152fedilink
minus-squareZomg@lemmy.worldlinkfedilinkarrow-up27arrow-down3·19 hours agoIdk, imagine being called a child, boy, preteen, teenager, or young adult when you’re in your late 20s or older. Hearing your friends say “the boys” or women hearing “the girls” is endearments between friends, not strangers.
minus-squareTracked@sopuli.xyzOPlinkfedilinkarrow-up6arrow-down23·18 hours agoI really… REALLY, disagree, as long as you don’t have bad intentions it’s all good
minus-squarepapertowels@lemmy.onelinkfedilinkarrow-up23arrow-down1·edit-218 hours ago as long as you don’t have bad intentions it’s all good Generally speaking, this is a problematic way of justifying your actions. It’s all good if you have no bad intentions as long as you apologize when called out. Good intentions do not give you a free pass, however they do help others understand where you’re coming from if you bring them up when apologizing. “My bad, I didn’t know about that, growing up it was always okay to do XYZ” “Sorry I made it more stressful for you, I thought I was helping” hits very different from “This is ridiculous, I had good intentions and you’re still upset 🙄” In fact, if you say the latter you’re saying you have good intentions, but how good are those intentions if you refuse to help accommodate more? Some understanding and clear communication will do a lot to smooth the axles of the world.
Idk, imagine being called a child, boy, preteen, teenager, or young adult when you’re in your late 20s or older.
Hearing your friends say “the boys” or women hearing “the girls” is endearments between friends, not strangers.
I really… REALLY, disagree, as long as you don’t have bad intentions it’s all good
Generally speaking, this is a problematic way of justifying your actions.
It’s all good if you have no bad intentions as long as you apologize when called out.
Good intentions do not give you a free pass, however they do help others understand where you’re coming from if you bring them up when apologizing.
“My bad, I didn’t know about that, growing up it was always okay to do XYZ”
“Sorry I made it more stressful for you, I thought I was helping”
hits very different from
“This is ridiculous, I had good intentions and you’re still upset 🙄”
In fact, if you say the latter you’re saying you have good intentions, but how good are those intentions if you refuse to help accommodate more?
Some understanding and clear communication will do a lot to smooth the axles of the world.