As a dude I still do throw out the compliment - I just make sure to say it as I leave so it’s clear there are no strings attached. “I really like what you did with your shoes - have a good one!”
As a guy I feel like I typically don’t get non-flirty compliments from gals, and I understand that it’s probably because there’s the worry of misunderstanding intent.
That said, one time a few years ago a gal mentioned she liked my boots as she walked past and I’m still riding that high, lol. If it helps make people happier I’m not going to shy away from complimenting them :)
I think she had some art on the sides - you ever see those white vans/chucks/Nikes with stuff drawn on them? I forget what it was, but it looked nice and looked like a labor of love.
I’m a guy and I’m in a very customer facing line of work and I don’t have that issue at all.
As others have said, maybe it’s an age thing (I’m middle aged) or maybe it’s a tone thing. If I’m complimenting them, it’s usually on something specific; “Oh hey, those are really cool glasses” or “I love what you’ve done with your hair.”, etc…
It’s never “You’ve got pretty hair, lady.” or “Gosh yer’ beautiful.”
The line between platonic comment and creepy sex weirdo (in my mind) is if you’re complimenting them on something they actively did that you think is cool (hairstyle, choice of glasses, etc…) it’s fine. Complimenting them on features that they have no control over, like saying “Hey, I just wanted to, completely randomly tell you how attractive you are” is creepy.
It’s all in the tone and body language. I’m a middle aged man and I do this occasionally when someone looks really cool. I’ve never received any indication that they think I’m flirting with them, which I’m not.
In girlmode I can compliment women on their attire, hair styling, accessories, etc and it’s not taken as a declaration of sexual arousal.
Wow your haircut is so nice! It makes my dick hard!
As a dude I still do throw out the compliment - I just make sure to say it as I leave so it’s clear there are no strings attached. “I really like what you did with your shoes - have a good one!”
As a guy I feel like I typically don’t get non-flirty compliments from gals, and I understand that it’s probably because there’s the worry of misunderstanding intent.
That said, one time a few years ago a gal mentioned she liked my boots as she walked past and I’m still riding that high, lol. If it helps make people happier I’m not going to shy away from complimenting them :)
What can someone do with their shoes to receive this compliment😳
I think she had some art on the sides - you ever see those white vans/chucks/Nikes with stuff drawn on them? I forget what it was, but it looked nice and looked like a labor of love.
If you have too much money you may like to browse Jon Fluevog shoes.
I’m sure they were really nice boots.
You’re going to make me blush!
I’m a guy and I’m in a very customer facing line of work and I don’t have that issue at all.
As others have said, maybe it’s an age thing (I’m middle aged) or maybe it’s a tone thing. If I’m complimenting them, it’s usually on something specific; “Oh hey, those are really cool glasses” or “I love what you’ve done with your hair.”, etc…
It’s never “You’ve got pretty hair, lady.” or “Gosh yer’ beautiful.”
The line between platonic comment and creepy sex weirdo (in my mind) is if you’re complimenting them on something they actively did that you think is cool (hairstyle, choice of glasses, etc…) it’s fine. Complimenting them on features that they have no control over, like saying “Hey, I just wanted to, completely randomly tell you how attractive you are” is creepy.
It’s all in the tone and body language. I’m a middle aged man and I do this occasionally when someone looks really cool. I’ve never received any indication that they think I’m flirting with them, which I’m not.