I think with a forced gender binary, any advantages are double sided: men are respected, but not allowed to show emotion; women are cared for, but infantilized; men earn more money, but can’t ask for help; women are trusted with children, but not computers; men get to go on adventures, but can’t back down from a fight.

Like, with other forms of bigotry, there’s a much clearer “winner,” but sexism fucks everyone. I don’t think it fucks everyone equally, but it does negatively impact everyone.

I’m an AFAB egg and I heavily relate to a lot of that. I come off some sort of way to people (I’m also 178 cm, but only 62kg, so I’m tall but not big, maybe that’s related), such that people don’t interrupt me, take credit for my ideas, mansplain to me… I actually experience very little in terms of individual (vs institutional) sexism, and I don’t know how to phrase that without it seeming like victim blaming. People don’t even catcall me anymore, but I may have just aged out of it

My husband sharpened a friend of mine’s meat cleaver for her. I knew I’d be seeing her at the library later, so I folded it inside cardboard and put it in a reusable shopping bag for her. At no point did I worry about anyone stopping me, and if they had, I would have expected them to believe me about what happened.

Everything went according to plan and I wouldn’t have thought anything of it, if my husband hadn’t been so surprised that I gave her the knife in public.

That’s why it shouldn’t be a legal requirement. If people hear that your parents mistreated you and still think poorly of you, that’s a person you don’t want in your life.

We’re social animals, we depend on others if we’re young, old, sick, or disabled. I don’t think it should be a legal requirement, but if people see you let your parents suffer, they probably won’t have a great opinion of you.

If it’s just general media within media, that Ben folds five ass crack bandit song was fucking killer

It’s definitely got a higher ceiling than family guy, but it’s also got a lower floor (though at least there’s no fucking chicken fighting) imo. There’s a lot of dumb, gross humor

War is a racket.

It’s totally possible that I’m less likely to take dark pictures than I would be if I had a better camera, so I might not really be comparing low light pictures

My husband has a phone with a bump and I really don’t notice a difference. I don’t know what to tell you 🤷

It could also be a perception thing. My eyesight is frankly pretty bad even with glasses, and I don’t really notice a difference (I currently use an iphone se without a camera bump). I don’t need a better camera, because my pictures are just for myself.

I wouldn’t argue with someone with better eyesight, but I honestly didn’t realize it made a big difference.

Selters and seltzer are also related, afaik

I never expected to get married (though I also didn’t really understand what marriage would be beforehand). I also thought I lost my chance at emigration, but luckily I made it. I didn’t think I’d be here, but I’m so, so glad.

I also never expected to be back in school, but that’s a necessary evil.

That’s not true; I’ve got them. My BMI is under 20, but I wear size 8-10 pants. My hip bones are literally bigger than average.

Ideally, we’d all stop…

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My husband would not describe himself as smart, but I think it’s probably because he never cared enough about school. He is pretty book smart and has a huge vocabulary in both his native and second language (his second is English, my native, and it’s fucking nuts to me that he’s got a wider English vocabulary than 70% of the kids I went to high school with), but he was just never into academia.

He is significantly smarter than he realizes though. He remembers every good tip or life hack he comes across, so he’s got a wide range of perfected methods for cutting onions, hanging pictures, keeping your place organized, etc.

He’s also very observant about me, to the degree that he literally knows me better than I know myself (I’m autistic and masked well my entire life until I immigrated to a new country and could really get weird without anyone stopping me). I tend to not care about things being right for me as long as they’re not wrong wrong. He’s noticed foods I don’t really like, routines I’m not aware of, and he is stupid good at turning me on (I tried lots of different phrasings here, I’m sorry it still sounds ick).

He DMs in dnd, and he’s so good at it. I tried dming once and realized that it was the equivalent of using your weekends to train for a marathon vs doing beer league soccer (dming vs being a PC). I just don’t want to work that hard while having fun. He has no issue keeping track of dozens of plot hooks or stat blocks and he incorporates new information from the PCs into his story as he goes. I don’t think it’s possible to be a really good DM without being smart (or at least about as smart as the players, and we’ve played with some pretty smart people and with kids, who are wayyy more creative/hard to predict than adults).

I want to go on, but at some point, he’d feel like this is TMI, so I’ll stop now.

I always looked for partners who were academically talented first (well, first for intelligence, I do think kindness is more important), and I’m so glad I was open to people who don’t make that their whole shtick, because I don’t deserve a husband this wonderful.

I watched Superstore for the first couple seasons when it came out, but recently watched the whole thing.

Though it’s a very funny comedy, it depicts the hopelessness I felt as a worker in the US so well. I’m astounded that they were able to be as pro-union as they were, and get that it would have been a diversion from the original tone of the series, but I still wish they’d pushed it a little harder.

On a personal level, there’s a character that I initially identified with, Dina. She’s nuts, and I’m not exactly proud of identifying with her, but it’s cool to watch it again after realizing that I’m autistic and see that she has a lot of autistic traits. I don’t know if that was intentional on the creators’ part or if I’m just reading too much into a character I like, but it’s still almost reassuring to see? I’m told I’m generally likable, unlike Dina, but that’s because I mask all of the behaviors she displays. The other characters do grow to like her, so it feels like a confirmation that I can be a little more myself around people.

Anyway, I want more people to watch it, so I can geek out about it.