/me gives a knowing head nod.
until we all learn to separate our identities from our politics from our technology, it will likely stay this way online.
for the record I will second your positive experience report regarding lemmy[.]ml - its diverse, (relatively) active, well federated and technically administered, runs bleeding edge server builds and is mostly drama free. cant think of much else I could ask for from a lemmy instance.
unqualified internet rando comment…
avoiding responsibility is a coping mechanism as well as a symptom for a host of significant, but treatable,
physiologicalpsychological issues. couple this with a demonstrated history of physical violence (I am trusting the state on this one) makes this difficult.my own experience suggests to me that you may want to ensure that your brother is consistently seeing a qualified professional and an effective medication regime is in place, being followed to the letter and has demonstrated positive results before you reengage. without 3rd party qualified professional help things are not likely to get better and may get worse.
I am sorry you, your brother and those around this situation are hurting. please stay safe.
edit: emphasis on word and autocorrect.